“Kid-free” I describe part of my every week as “kid-free.” It first appeared when I started dating again. Browsing the profiles of divorced men with kids, and then writing my own, it was important to specify that one was occasionally, hopefully regularly and consistently kid-free. “Wednesday through Friday I’m always kid-free.” It’s my shortcut for… Continue reading Single-parent household glossary
Almost two years ago today, a 14-year-old boy named Dajae Coleman was shot dead on Church Street in Evanston, just a few blocks from where I lived. I remember at the time thinking that I probably heard the shots, without knowing it, from my own home. He was a model citizen and star athlete and… Continue reading This is about race, tolerance, family, and fearlessness
Several years ago I was sitting at lunch with a very good friend at a suburban restaurant. I had taken a break from my stay-at-home-mom day to visit her on her turf as she had to break away from her intense, full-time work-from-home job with one of the Big Four. We had worked together in the dot-com… Continue reading Full circle
I am outnumbered 3:1 by children. In my shared custody situation I either have the kids to myself, or I don’t have them. This creates an interesting dynamic that I don’t think I ever consciously envisioned, and just recently recognized: it takes greater effort and unique steering skills to maintain control of the bus. I… Continue reading My children—my conscience?
This blog has been hibernating for one year, nine months, and three days. And just like that, after tucking my kids into bed, after eating a leftover banana pancake for dinner, before emptying out the dishwasher, and while drinking ginger tea, I felt like reviving it. I left off folding my twin boys’ Batman underwear,… Continue reading Revived
Reentering the professional workforce has been on my mind for a long time. And it’s never seemed so difficult. I remember thinking, before we had our first child, that I would simply have to wait until she was born to see how I felt about returning to work. I just didn’t know how I’d feel… Continue reading Mother of reinvention. And again. And again.
It’s a funny thing, this blogging. One of my very early posts was just featured on Mamapedia Voices, and I can’t tell you how excited and flattered I am. It’s my first non-self-published writing. I am so honored. I’m also feeling the pressure. As you can see, I haven’t posted since July 1st. But now… Continue reading Blogging is like the relationship between toddlers and food
I’ve been perusing Lisa Belkin’s Motherlode blog in the New York Times quite a bit lately, and there’s been a lot of talk about modern motherhood, and how we modern mothers face a tough choice between career and motherhood that leaves us torn. A propos, her book of the month is Torn: True Stories of… Continue reading Imagine not having to talk about being “torn”
Questions are starting to emerge. I know very well that they are emotional, reactionary, worried questions. I know the rational answers to them. But they’re still creeping up. I’m thinking of the movie The Matrix – there’s this crumbling, dark, unpredictable reality behind the seemingly organized and sense-making world that I create for myself every… Continue reading Do I take the red or the blue pill?
Ugh, I haven’t posted since April 20th. That’s ridiculous. What in the world has held me back? Well, let’s just say there were many moments when I wanted to sit down and write. Or better yet, spew. Or announce that I’d had enough. Or tell you exactly how I felt about the time when… Wasn’t… Continue reading Taking a moment to get off this high speed train