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Single-parent household glossary

“Kid-free” I describe part of my every week as “kid-free.” It first appeared when I started dating again. Browsing the profiles of divorced men with kids, and then writing my own, it was important to specify that one was occasionally, hopefully regularly and consistently kid-free. “Wednesday through Friday I’m always kid-free.” It’s my shortcut for… Continue reading Single-parent household glossary

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This is about race, tolerance, family, and fearlessness

Almost two years ago today, a 14-year-old boy named Dajae Coleman was shot dead on Church Street in Evanston, just a few blocks from where I lived. I remember at the time thinking that I probably heard the shots, without knowing it, from my own home. He was a model citizen and star athlete and… Continue reading This is about race, tolerance, family, and fearlessness

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Mother of reinvention. And again. And again.

Reentering the professional workforce has been on my mind for a long time. And it’s never seemed so difficult. I remember thinking, before we had our first child, that I would simply have to wait until she was born to see how I felt about returning to work. I just didn’t know how I’d feel… Continue reading Mother of reinvention. And again. And again.

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Blogging is like the relationship between toddlers and food

It’s a funny thing, this blogging. One of my very early posts was just featured on Mamapedia Voices, and I can’t tell you how excited and flattered I am. It’s my first non-self-published writing. I am so honored. I’m also feeling the pressure. As you can see, I haven’t posted since July 1st. But now… Continue reading Blogging is like the relationship between toddlers and food

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Imagine not having to talk about being “torn”

I’ve been perusing Lisa Belkin’s Motherlode blog in the New York Times quite a bit lately, and there’s been a lot of talk about modern motherhood, and how we modern mothers face a tough choice between career and motherhood that leaves us torn. A propos, her book of the month is Torn: True Stories of… Continue reading Imagine not having to talk about being “torn”

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Do I take the red or the blue pill?

Questions are starting to emerge. I know very well that they are emotional, reactionary, worried questions. I know the rational answers to them. But they’re still creeping up. I’m thinking of the movie The Matrix – there’s this crumbling, dark, unpredictable reality behind the seemingly organized and sense-making world that I create for myself every… Continue reading Do I take the red or the blue pill?

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Taking a moment to get off this high speed train

Ugh, I haven’t posted since April 20th. That’s ridiculous. What in the world has held me back? Well, let’s just say there were many moments when I wanted to sit down and write. Or better yet, spew. Or announce that I’d had enough. Or tell you exactly how I felt about the time when… Wasn’t… Continue reading Taking a moment to get off this high speed train